Why we need a mentor ?

Any child who is born on this earth is like a plain slate. This slate is un programmed. the child does not understand Hindu, Muslim, Rape, violence, Mother Father etc.We only teach them or program them.. the child learns what is taught to them..

 A Child copies their hero's performance.For Pre- school child the Mother is the hero. For a school going child their teacher is the hero.For a College Going child their Class  mates are the hero. For present generation who are born with internet They keep on discovering their hero's

 Every child requires examples The child looks for lot of examples in their hero's. when that hero start working with them and guiding them. they become their mentor In my case my mother was my first mentor. My wife is my second mentor,let me give a little of my background.

I am a faculty for Mentor training programme, in many organisation.i have pioneered mentoring for a major public sector in India.The best example i can give is  from my own life,How mentor impacted  my own life.My wife played a major role in my life, the moment she came into my life she sensed i have passion for learning and sharing, she has sponsored me for a majority of learning programmes

To mention a few 1 Stephen Coveys programe. 2 NLP 3 PhD 3 Ms Counselling 4 EdwardDe Bono Creativity 5 EFT 6 TLT 7 Silva Mind Control etc 8 Coaching (ACC) 9 HRD Psychometric tools 10 FIROB If she is not there in my life, i woud have missed a vital part of my Quality Life.

Thanks to my wife , As a token of this use a film clipping to drive home this point in my major seminars on mentoring. this is no doubt in telugu language. this conveys the message of love and concern of a mentor to men tee

Difference between a "Mentor ", " Coach" and "Counselor"

                                        A mentor is "Person" focused " ,            

A mentor is a Guide,adviser  and well wisher and an over all developer

 Coaching is "Skill" focused",  A coach focuses on taking the person into a bright future, by developing appropriate skills

  

Counselling is "Grievance" focused

 A counselor focuses on pulling the person from a past  stuck up situation into the current present

Indian Vedic culture talks of  three important roles for the development of a good character in a child.as "Matru devo bhava, Pitru devo bhava and Acharya devo bhava . This Sanskrit phrase emphasis    the role of a mother , father and well wisher as very important.in  molding the character of any person in the society . A mother's is always available when the child is suffering ,A father  is available for teaching any skills like cycling,swimming etc. (Indian  society a father is performance focused) ,A teacher is avilable for the overall development of the child,. A mother role can be interpreted as a "counselor" role,A father's Role  can be interpreted as a "Coach"  Role  and a Teachers  role can be interpreted as a mentor role

Who is a coach?& Who is a mentor ?

Coach is skilled person who focuses on performance ,works towards performance improvement and helps the individual to achieve the performance satisfaction. Coach is a person who focuses on a product.

The main aim of the Coach is to Impart the skill in   the individual. he focuses mainly on the professional front.

Mentor is person who shares his wisdom and knowledge, mostly helps in the process of becoming a holistic person.The mentor focuses on the work life balance of the individual

For the healthy up bringing of a child the role of mother and father is very essential. Similarly in an organisation for shortening the learning curve and accelerating the new entrant into the organisation culture, the role of both the boss and a well wisher is very essential., while the boss focuses on the work performance, The  mentor focuses on the non professional areas of improvement

Instant mentor

Mentoring is a relationship between a senior called Mentor, with wisdom and knowledge who passes it on to a junior, called mentee. This mentor pairs if made in the organization can accelerate the growth of the mentee fast into into the organization culture. The learning curve gets shortened.

Have you observed when two brothers or sisters who grow up together as bed mates.Who is more smarter the elder one or younger one.? obviously the younger one.

A little common sense psychology gives you the answer The elder learns or copies the behavior of his parents with lot of caution, hesitation and rejections. The younger one without hesitation copies the behavior smartly, because he has a buddy mentor , The younger one has his brother or sister who works as an instant mentor, clarifying lot of doubt and protecting him from unwanted behavior. This instant mentor passes on his knowledge and wisdom which shapes the behavior of the younger one.

Types of Human Resource Training

Basically Human Resource Training are imparted under two methods: 1. Group training 2. One to one Training. Mostly the group training is conducted in classroom atmosphere. one to one training is conducted face to face

Broadly there are three types of one to one Hr interventions. they are mentioned as follows:

1. Mentoring: mostly an advisorory role to transfer knowledge and wisdom to the younger one.

2. Coaching: mostly future focused, performance improving strategy focusing on goal setting, questioning and performance measurement. 3. Counselling: Mostly a past focused helping the individual to come up from his past stuck up position to the current present position.

Reverse Mentoring

Mentoring is mothering,that is playing the role of a mother.A mentor is person on whom one can trust,one can relay and one can look for guidance. Every mythology has characters who has played messiah's role unconditionally.In indian mthology Krishna mentored Arjuna,Chanyaka mentored Chandragupta, Bram khan mentored Akbar.

If one looks at Indian Hollywood, k A Abbas mentored Amitabh bachan , Balachander mentored Kamalahasan even in the rich mans life, Bill gates is mentored by Waren buffet.

Traditional mentoring is from a senior to a junior, a senior person pases on his knowledge wisdom and learning to a junior. Most of the corporate world has accepted traditional school of mentoring . Mentoring is defined as relationship where a senior help the junior to accelerate into the organisational culture, through advise and sharing.

The corporate circles got the shock of their life, when the then chairman of GE ordered all the senior management, to get mentored through the new recruits to become an internet savvy. This was called as reverse mentoring.

Reverse mentoring is always seen in our joint family.The Grandfather learns how to operate the Tv remote, internet, cellphone through the grand sons

EQ; How to handle my Boss?

Regularly put Emotional Deposit in the heart of the boss.

Today my mentee came to me, telling i want to work more but my boss is giving full support to certian projects , partial support to some projects and casual support for some other projects. he also mentioed a few incidents for refrence.

We had a few discussions from my experience. I pointed out certain projects(competency mapping) which i did unconditionally for my boss. The project was under my boss name but the experience was mine. Now he has a high regard for me. This project is an unconditional help, i rendered to him. I have made an emotional deposit in his heart.

This is one of the way in which every subordinate can make regular tiny emotional deposits in the heart of their boss.

Mentees learning

1.Emotional quotient is very important for maintaining inter personal relationship

2.Always have emotional deposits with your bosses.